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snugglekitty(1) You prefences in sweeties seems to have changed a lot since I met you. What changes do you think occurred in you that led you to seek different preferences in sweeties?
(2) How do you determine, when you get to know someone, whether this person is going to be a sweetie or a friend?
(3) If, hypothetically, you started a new 9-5 job in a fairly conservative environment and they met Jim or knew of him so assumed that you were married and therefore straight, how would you correct them? What do you think would be appropriate to say?
(4) You have dramatically changed your diet in the past few years. Is it working, what do you notice has changed?
(5) You talk about your girly parts in a frank, open way I admire. A question I have always wondered, what is the difference, in symptoms, between a yeast infection and a bacterial infection? (perhaps this question should go under a separate heading, if you would like)
(1) You prefences in sweeties seems to have changed a lot since I met you. What changes do you think occurred in you that led you to seek different preferences in sweeties?
I would love to hear more about how you see my preferences as having changed. I think that mainly what happened is that I started being more intentional about sweeties. I stopped thinking "This is just for today, so X, Y, and Z are not that important." I dated some people who wanted to have something more ongoing, and though "Wow, that's not what I want at all," so I started thinking about what kind of person I wanted to be with in the long term. I also, for the most part, stopped dating bio-guys. Which has little to do with my attractions (I've always been more attracted to women) and more to do with learning better strategies for actually meeting and dating women.
(2) How do you determine, when you get to know someone, whether this person is going to be a sweetie or a friend?
Generally everyone is in the "potential sweetie" pool until proven otherwise. Usually, when I decide someone is going to just be a friend, one of two things is going on:
- I feel such a strong kinship with something in them that I don't want to take the risk of losing them in a breakup, so I don't want to date them or
- Something about the person makes me think they wouldn't be a good fit, like their orientation (I don't date people who are only tops, for instance, or they're monogamous) or something in their personality that makes me think I don't want to be super-close to them.
(3) If, hypothetically, you started a new 9-5 job in a fairly conservative environment and they met Jim or knew of him so assumed that you were married and therefore straight, how would you correct them? What do you think would be appropriate to say?
Imagine a world with no hypothetical situations. Okay. :)
The trouble with this question is that I probably wouldn't take a NTF job in a fairly conservative environment at this point. But, if I did, I would probably spend a few months talking nonstop about my girlfriend and dropping other hints to let them know that I'm queer as a three-dollar bill. Then, mention that I have a partner who's a guy, and explain about the poly thing. Usually these days I start out by presenting myself as queer. Then, if I think the person can wrap their head around my also being married, I tell them that as well.
(4) You have dramatically changed your diet in the past few years. Is it working, what do you notice has changed?
It is definitely working. I no longer have to spend the day in bed a few times a month because my stomach just hurts that much. Also, I have a much higher level of energy and I sleep better.
Recently I took an antibiotic that fucked with my digestive tract pretty intensely, and I thought, "Wow. This is what I used to feel like ALL THE TIME." So I'm really really glad I found something that worked, even though, I'm sure you know I miss chocolate like crazy. On the plus side, I know a zillion cures for an upset stomach.
(5) You talk about your girly parts in a frank, open way I admire. A question I have always wondered, what is the difference, in symptoms, between a yeast infection and a bacterial infection? (perhaps this question should go under a separate heading, if you would like)
No, that's fine. A bacterial infection tends to be less itchy, and does not smell yeasty. The discharge from a bacterial infection just smells like more of your body's natural odor. There also tends to be swelling and redness with a bacterial infection, that generally only happens with a yeast infection if it's very advanced. If you feel like you might be getting a yeast infection, and it never really gets bad enough to treat but never goes away either, it's very likely bacterial. My two cents, not a medical professional, etc.
(2) How do you determine, when you get to know someone, whether this person is going to be a sweetie or a friend?
(3) If, hypothetically, you started a new 9-5 job in a fairly conservative environment and they met Jim or knew of him so assumed that you were married and therefore straight, how would you correct them? What do you think would be appropriate to say?
(4) You have dramatically changed your diet in the past few years. Is it working, what do you notice has changed?
(5) You talk about your girly parts in a frank, open way I admire. A question I have always wondered, what is the difference, in symptoms, between a yeast infection and a bacterial infection? (perhaps this question should go under a separate heading, if you would like)
(1) You prefences in sweeties seems to have changed a lot since I met you. What changes do you think occurred in you that led you to seek different preferences in sweeties?
I would love to hear more about how you see my preferences as having changed. I think that mainly what happened is that I started being more intentional about sweeties. I stopped thinking "This is just for today, so X, Y, and Z are not that important." I dated some people who wanted to have something more ongoing, and though "Wow, that's not what I want at all," so I started thinking about what kind of person I wanted to be with in the long term. I also, for the most part, stopped dating bio-guys. Which has little to do with my attractions (I've always been more attracted to women) and more to do with learning better strategies for actually meeting and dating women.
(2) How do you determine, when you get to know someone, whether this person is going to be a sweetie or a friend?
Generally everyone is in the "potential sweetie" pool until proven otherwise. Usually, when I decide someone is going to just be a friend, one of two things is going on:
- I feel such a strong kinship with something in them that I don't want to take the risk of losing them in a breakup, so I don't want to date them or
- Something about the person makes me think they wouldn't be a good fit, like their orientation (I don't date people who are only tops, for instance, or they're monogamous) or something in their personality that makes me think I don't want to be super-close to them.
(3) If, hypothetically, you started a new 9-5 job in a fairly conservative environment and they met Jim or knew of him so assumed that you were married and therefore straight, how would you correct them? What do you think would be appropriate to say?
Imagine a world with no hypothetical situations. Okay. :)
The trouble with this question is that I probably wouldn't take a NTF job in a fairly conservative environment at this point. But, if I did, I would probably spend a few months talking nonstop about my girlfriend and dropping other hints to let them know that I'm queer as a three-dollar bill. Then, mention that I have a partner who's a guy, and explain about the poly thing. Usually these days I start out by presenting myself as queer. Then, if I think the person can wrap their head around my also being married, I tell them that as well.
(4) You have dramatically changed your diet in the past few years. Is it working, what do you notice has changed?
It is definitely working. I no longer have to spend the day in bed a few times a month because my stomach just hurts that much. Also, I have a much higher level of energy and I sleep better.
Recently I took an antibiotic that fucked with my digestive tract pretty intensely, and I thought, "Wow. This is what I used to feel like ALL THE TIME." So I'm really really glad I found something that worked, even though, I'm sure you know I miss chocolate like crazy. On the plus side, I know a zillion cures for an upset stomach.
(5) You talk about your girly parts in a frank, open way I admire. A question I have always wondered, what is the difference, in symptoms, between a yeast infection and a bacterial infection? (perhaps this question should go under a separate heading, if you would like)
No, that's fine. A bacterial infection tends to be less itchy, and does not smell yeasty. The discharge from a bacterial infection just smells like more of your body's natural odor. There also tends to be swelling and redness with a bacterial infection, that generally only happens with a yeast infection if it's very advanced. If you feel like you might be getting a yeast infection, and it never really gets bad enough to treat but never goes away either, it's very likely bacterial. My two cents, not a medical professional, etc.