tribal characteristics
Oct. 14th, 2005 01:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
snugglekittyWhat do you look for in potential members of your tribe or chosen family? Or, what traits have you noticed seem to pop up over and over again?
When I think about it, it seems to me that my tribe places high value on people who are affectionate, low-drama, well-spoken and/or witty, crafty and/or geeky, strongly commited to honesty, and who like parties. Naturally many of our members also share a bunch of our identity labels (after all, if you're not a kinky poly slut, how'd you wind up in bed with us anyway? And although most of us are bi, we include mono-preferential queer folks but not straight ones.). There also seems to be a correlation with non-smoking, social drinking, and being cute. Plus, winter birthdays... no, I'm just kidding.
It does occur to me that this matches pretty well with what I look for in my partners. So I guess it could just be that Honey approval is the real qualifying factor, but I'd like to think I'm not that shallow.
When I think about it, it seems to me that my tribe places high value on people who are affectionate, low-drama, well-spoken and/or witty, crafty and/or geeky, strongly commited to honesty, and who like parties. Naturally many of our members also share a bunch of our identity labels (after all, if you're not a kinky poly slut, how'd you wind up in bed with us anyway? And although most of us are bi, we include mono-preferential queer folks but not straight ones.). There also seems to be a correlation with non-smoking, social drinking, and being cute. Plus, winter birthdays... no, I'm just kidding.
It does occur to me that this matches pretty well with what I look for in my partners. So I guess it could just be that Honey approval is the real qualifying factor, but I'd like to think I'm not that shallow.
